in/co/interdependence

Am I devoted to myself enough?

I hate it when these questions pop up, as if the universe is asking me.

What does that even mean, to be devoted to oneself?

I’m a firm believer of loving yourself and taking care of your own needs. I mean let’s face it, it's your own responsibility.

You’re supposed to make yourself feel good, feel whole. If that becomes someone else’s job you’ve got issues.

But how does that play out in relationships?

How do you know when something or someone is just not good enough?

When is it about the relationship not being up to par and when is it because you failed to take care of yourself first?

And why can it be it so hard to differentiate between the two?